the only way i can see that she might have benefited is when i came home and she could manipulate me easier.
That's a BIG one, some people do thrive on it. I suspect she's already been 'paid back' huge amounts by this. Although I doubt she'd ever admit it...
if you asked me out for coffee i would have to pay for myself...or pay you back. dinner at a classy restaurant is bigger...that means you want something more than just "friendship" it comes with the need to do something just as classy for you...or the thought that sex will pay back what I've been given.
Somebody like me? If I ask you out for coffee, it's cause I want to spend that time with you, cause I like you. If I was to ask you out to a classy restaurant, it would be for the exact same reason plus MY need to have someone with me, because if I had to go alone, I wouldn't go.
We all have our broken spots, our individual fragile places. Making space for each others' needs is part of what friendship is all about.
It's not about pity, it's about mutual liking and the knowledge that if you have those fragile points, I will be considerate of them, because I have my fragile points that need your consideration too.
*hugs* [freely offered, you don't have to take it ;-)] Sparrow
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the only way i can see that she might have benefited is when i came home and she could manipulate me easier.
That's a BIG one, some people do thrive on it. I suspect she's already been 'paid back' huge amounts by this. Although I doubt she'd ever admit it...
if you asked me out for coffee i would have to pay for myself...or pay you back. dinner at a classy restaurant is bigger...that means you want something more than just "friendship" it comes with the need to do something just as classy for you...or the thought that sex will pay back what I've been given.
Somebody like me? If I ask you out for coffee, it's cause I want to spend that time with you, cause I like you. If I was to ask you out to a classy restaurant, it would be for the exact same reason plus MY need to have someone with me, because if I had to go alone, I wouldn't go.
We all have our broken spots, our individual fragile places. Making space for each others' needs is part of what friendship is all about.
It's not about pity, it's about mutual liking and the knowledge that if you have those fragile points, I will be considerate of them, because I have my fragile points that need your consideration too.
*hugs* [freely offered, you don't have to take it ;-)]
Sparrow