found you from my flist. i may know you in real life, i may not. i dont know.
quote: she didn't benefit actually...she just let me do what i wanted to do and she paid for it. the only way i can see that she might have benefited is when i came home and she could manipulate me easier.
she used it as a leash. a loan. so she could manipulate you and feel "one up" on you later. to her that was a benefit. it may not have been intended when she made the decision to pay for something, but it tunred into that.
been there. one of the problems with my past is so many times peoplle may have started out giving me something for nothing. or a little repayment, but decided they wanted more later.. hugs, from another person who has trouble accepting gifts. no i dont have it as bvad as that, but i know the symptoms.
for me? i found that practicing doing good anonymously. or nearly so....helped me feel better about receiving help. maybe i felt i had 'earned" it or something, but it helped.
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she didn't benefit actually...she just let me do what i wanted to do and she paid for it. the only way i can see that she might have benefited is when i came home and she could manipulate me easier.
she used it as a leash. a loan. so she could manipulate you and feel "one up" on you later. to her that was a benefit. it may not have been intended when she made the decision to pay for something, but it tunred into that.
been there. one of the problems with my past is so many times peoplle may have started out giving me something for nothing. or a little repayment, but decided they wanted more later..
hugs, from another person who has trouble accepting gifts.
no i dont have it as bvad as that, but i know the symptoms.
for me? i found that practicing doing good anonymously. or nearly so....helped me feel better about receiving help. maybe i felt i had 'earned" it or something, but it helped.