so it looks like i've made a good start

[lokizmom]

i asked about ACoA groups in the sfbayarea community. i've gotten quite a few responses already, and i'm hoping to be able to go to a meeting on saturday nights. it's gonna be hard going alone, 'cos ya'll know how much i like to do things alone, but i know i can do it. it's gonna be one of the best steps i've taken so far.

**sigh**

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[lokiz-mom.livejournal.com]

i think it's just a matter of having someone to talk to that doesn't really know me. i mean i can talk to my friends until they're sick of hearing it, and it doesn't always do any good. if i'm talking to someone who has been through it or is still going through it they might understand me better. i know it's not easy, and i dont expect an overnight fix. in fact i really don't expect a fix at all...i just want someone (on the outside) to listen when i talk.

**sigh** i'm going to bed before i start to cry again

thanks for the support

[butterfly-smile.livejournal.com]

I would be happy to go with you the first time.
I have been to meetings with them since I was 12 off and on.
You might need to try a couple of meetings to find the right fit.

Hugs.

[lokiz-mom.livejournal.com]

it's actually something i would like to do myself the first time. not because i dont want anyone to go with me, but i know that if someone i know is there i won't say everything that i want to say...if i say anything at all. it's hard to explain. ask sylvan...he understands me more than anyone really. he knows what it's like to put on a "happy face" and make everyone think all is well...when it's not.

thanks for the hugs

[vettecat.livejournal.com]

Good luck... hope it helps!

[ranamo.livejournal.com]

As someone who walks Twelve Steps...

I'm VERY proud of you.

It's hard to admit that you lack the tools to cope with your situation. It's hard to admit powerlessness. It's hard to admit that you can't fix another person's problems.

I agree with captivatinglove... If you don't like the vibe of the first group you visit, go to another one. I've been to AA meetings all around this country, and some rocked, while others completely sucked. Also, take from the meeting whatever message you jive with. If something is said that you find you disagree with, well, there's no obligation to believe (although, you might find that some concepts you initially rejected become near and dear to your heart later on).

I'll leave you with these final thoughts my friend:

Honesty, Hope, Faith,
Courage, Integrity, Willingness,
Humility, Compassion, Justice,
Perseverance, Awareness, Service.

Those are The Steps. Walk them with Honesty, Openess, and Willingness in your heart.

*BIG HUGS*